It’s not abnormal to experience midlife issues, especially if you’ve suffered a divorce, are single, or you’re having issues within your marriage. Suddenly you look around and the world is full of tight 20 something young bodies assaulting you at every turn. In magazines, and in movies, women your own age appear flawless. In your mind you’re still that 20 something young woman but the moment you look in the mirror you look behind you quickly to make sure your mom isn’t really standing in front of that mirror.
You know intellectually that the magic of Photoshop and airbrushing is to blame and even the sweet young 20 something’s aren’t really perfect, but nonetheless you find yourself competing with them since many men your own age who aren’t gay or otherwise attached seem to be attracted to women 20 years younger than they are.
The truth is many men go for women like that because those are the women with the confidence to approach them, or the insecurity to swoon at an older man’s advances. Sometimes it really is true love, but one thing it is not is a competition. True love has no age. However, the truth is, most men don’t really go for younger women on purpose it is likely they have no idea the age of the woman before they date her. All they know is she is attractive to them, whether physically or mentally. Men are visual there is no doubt, but if you talk to then they’ll tell you that maturity is sexy as long as the woman is confident in herself.
You don’t need to wear the same clothing that a young 20 year old wears to be attractive. Style is ageless. If you have sexy long legs, it is perfectly okay to wear short skirts at any age. If you have gorgeous long silky locks in your 50’s or 60’s that is perfectly acceptable if that is what makes you feel good and is comfortable. What you should do is make sure the fit is impeccable, the cut and color are right for you and that the materials aren’t dated. A short skirt from the 70’s just isn’t the same thing as a short skirt made today so make sure you update your clothing to modern times.
The other thing to remember is that being healthy is youthful. Keep yourself as healthy as you possibly can. Eat right, get plenty of exercise, and drink fresh filtered water every single day. Watching your weight is important as well because you can’t be either underweight or overweight and be healthy. Keep a balanced weight, and you will automatically look more youthful. Your skin will look radiant and your eyes will sparkle. Lastly, attitude is everything. It might sound trite but your attitude plays a major role in everything you do. We all know the woman who is not that attractive on the surface but seems to attract both men and women to them like flies. That is confidence and a good attitude at work.
